Saturn in Scorpio with a Venus Retrograde!
What is Love?
Love is different for everyone… This is because we look at love based off of our past associations to “Love”.
So for some people love could be an expectation that then leaves you disappointed from the one who you wanted to be validated by.
For someone else it could be the attraction that you feel when meeting the same “something” in another.
With these two examples what do you notice>? Both statements are meaning that in order to feel love, you need to get it from someplace outside of yourself.
So I guess Love is uncertainty for most of us a gamble…
In order to find that idealistic “Love connection” you will ultimately need to find someone who sees things from the same level/point of view as you do. Not a problem right? Like attracts Like… Yes true! But is that what Love really is? You will need to meet someone on the same vibration as you… In doing so it acts like a mirror from within shining out. By this I mean your attracting to you an aspect of you that you do not see and merge with said person for a “Love” r-e-a-l-ationship. So what your actually looking for is something that you cannot or will not give yourself.
So in fact you didn’t actually need this other person... What you needed was to validate yourself. When you take charge of you, of your body, thoughts, needs, wants and in turn your happiness you’re no longer looking outside of yourself therefore you can never be disappointed in love.
Now I am not saying we as humans do not need relationships, to feel a physical connection with people… because for the most part we do. People/Relationships act as ways for which we can learn and grow… but when you take charge of you, what you are doing is changing your vibration so you can become a match for that right relationship - what ever that means for you.
If you cannot sit and be with yourself, be honest with yourself on all levels, to accept yourself to love yourself in your entirety how and why do you think someone else should?
Now everyone on this planet is a reflection of love, everything that everyone does is because of love or the lack of it… So if your someone who feels you need someone to feel love your never going to be happy in just being with or by yourself how can you expect someone to be with you if you cannot?
You see a lot of relationships are fantastic at the beginning because when you got into that said relationship you was on a certain vibration, when you mix with someone else's energy and there thoughts, you learn a lot on both parts, your growing as people which is what I found Saturn in Scorpio to do, It brought us into relationships that were transformative, that brought up hidden, deep, dark aspects of ourselves to be ultimately resolved. People grow and change and if your not both doing the work you come out of alignment and as such you go different ways… Scorpio is magnetic it’s intense and passionate and in truth you won’t experience that 2012-2014 relationship for another 30 years or so if not the rest of your life time.
In order to get into the vibration of love, that association of “feeling good” or “feeling happy” or “feeling validated” you first have to start appreciating what is, and what is not, I know that sounds funny but you must see that everything is happening for a reason, some of which we like and some of which we do not like, alas it is all teaching us valid lessons and is leading us on the path of what we want. Start allowing, stop resisting, and know that you will have what you want you must first be okay with what is. IT’s okay to feel like you don’t want to experience certain things but know that the feeling your feeling is just love or something within you that needs love… you can give that to yourself.
Let me just touch on honesty! People who know me on a personal level know that I’m very upfront, depending upon who you are i’ll use a little more tact than I use with others nonetheless I will always give you an honest answer. Honesty is so important, I’ve seen this in some of my closest friends relationships, where they are unable to be honest with themselves and in doing so there partners to where they are unable to be honest with themselves. Now they are/were a match to each other but if you cannot be honest with yourself how can you expect others to be honest with you?
I like to look at the world in a very “Hocus Pocus way”... Everything that happens to me is a reflection of something that is either going on within me on an emotional, spiritual, physical or in a mental way or it is something that i need to become aware of… Life is offering signs, patterns and information always talking guiding and helping us… Yes sometimes with hard lessons and with other times pleasant experiences. You cannot have one without the other, but the way in which you look at it helps massively. The Key I find is to observe, what are people saying, and what are they not saying, what do you notice keeps coming up, be that a feeling, emotion or reaction…
Now I completely realize people do not function in the way i do, and I’m not saying for you to change but I am saying for you to be aware of you, how you feel, being honest with what you want and then looking at what you accept. I am saying to take time to reflect, to process and check in with you if only for 5 minutes a day. I am saying to practice the art of appreciation or as some might say gratitude as these things will help raise your vibration in order to make positive changes.
Now Honestly, what is that? I ask this question because people mistake honesty with Judgment. How so you might say… Well Honesty is when you acknowledge or can admit how you feel in regards to something you have experienced. This is purely about you, it’s what you make of it... In Truth Honesty is about you! Judgement is about others, when you say something about someone else it is a judgement or it is an opinion.
life offers us a array of feelings and emotions and so when you experience something that you do not like, or someone says something you do not like… It’s not about them (do not project) it’s about you, your being asked to ask yourself why did that actually hit home for you… Life is not about being right or wrong, everything is right and everything is wrong depending upon how you look at it, what your experiences are, your beliefs are and from what angle you look at it from.
So bringing you back to one of my favourite sayings…
“We all have choices, but in the end our choices make us.”
What i am saying here is, it doesn’t matter what we go through, what people say to us or do not say to us, it’s all about being honest with ourselves, loving ourselves, allowing ourselves to feel all emotions, all experiences, It is all about how and what we make things mean to us… If we can be honest enough to say and see the bigger picture it enables us to heal and to grow and to free ourselves from the past.
we cannot go through life only experiencing positive emotions, so why resist so much when a negative one comes up… Its an instant reaction to disconnect and push it away as if it doesn't exist only to crawl its way back to us... In truth we learn a lot more from hard experiences than we do from positive ones but we need the balance of both and all in between… remember nothing stays in one vibration for too long so just learn to see, appreciate, acknowledge, be honest and to accept not just the experience but yourself. Life is a mirror it reflects out, what we experience is what is going on within and so on.
To mention admitting how you feel is not just with the positive emotions it’s with the negatives ones as well. Once we admit how we feel we bring light to it and it eats its way through and eventually when we catch ourselves aware of a certain emotion it’s almost freeing to see it’s not about them it’s about you (in many cases how you respond is also about you and not them).
I’m not saying be all doom and gloom about it - NOT AT ALL!
Let’s say your someone who has been resisting letting go of something (seems most applicable in terms of relationship stuff at this time)... You notice yourself constantly hanging on to it… That thought arises- Stop and say to yourself “I’m really good at hanging on to stuff”, “I am refusing to let go of this”, “wow i’m a pro at lingering on to this relationship, even though it ended, i’m like the world champion at hanging on to blah blah blah”... Initially your wanting to moving on… But your secretly not… So when you make fun or even just acknowledge what your doing it makes it easier to do what you was initially setting out to do - Letting go.
It’s like those who say, I’m never going to fall in love again it hurts to much… (this was totally me!) I was actually holding onto the pain of the past, when essentially i was trying to erase that person i was actually holding on to them by holding onto the memory of it… Therefore not accepting my pain, my hurt, and totally refusing to accept the experience or what i was going through and in turn lying to myself and not allowing myself to just feel how i was feeling and working through it. Not wanting to fall in love, i was actually saying I was never going to love myself… I was shutting away any positive experience. Obviously I have had many epiphanies since then and I have learnt from that experience and have had many more since then. We have to go through experiences so we can graduate and end up with the one we feel “right” in.
Let go of the “why” things happen and sit with What is it that your feeling… accept that feeling stop resisting that feeling and allow yourself to be in it… The “why” may of triggered you to become aware of it… chances are that emotion has probably been there just beneath the surface wanting you to acknowledge it so life does what life does and teaches you a harder lesson so that you can accept, own it, work through it and be honest with you! with your experience.
There is no Happiness without Sadness & no sadness without Happiness. Relationships are at their strongest when they are authentic and honest. My greatest advice in this social media time that we live in is to stop comparing your life, your experiences to those around you. Those people have not lived your life, in your shoes and experienced life the way you have… So why are you judging others?
Your wasting endless hours envious or jealous of other people but you only get to see what they allow/want you too… Things you see online are superficial, they are posts from people documenting their “best” moments, (what they want you to believe) they are real people with real issues, problems that you cannot see… Because people are not authentic.
Do not fall into the trap of I should have this, it’s not fair because, everyone my ages has… You get the gist of what i am saying here. Be real honest with yourself, it’s okay to feel upset just as it is okay to feel happy. We are going through this thing called life, we all have choices that we make and those choices end up making us.
we are either unhappy because we should have something or unhappy because of something that’s happening to us. Love yourself in every moment, you have to live with you, and accept every emotion and feeling that comes up… Now if you cannot do something about it, then it’s okay to feel frustrated, but know that things always turn back around and it’s in these moments that we must be extra nice to ourselves.
So thats all on my ramble of whats love… To Sum up i’d say Karmic relationships where/are until septemeber time on the forefront 2012-2014 and the summer of 2015… What are you learning?
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