With Fall upon us and relationships entering the Make up or Break-up phase I thought it would be a good time to voice some words...
So What’s the deal with relationships this day in age…
Those that know of me know the nature of my work and I guess I find it super interesting to see the recurring themes that come through when I do my readings.
So, It’s that time of year again the summer is coming to a close and for some strange reason we all feel like we have to be in some form of a “real- action - ship”...
Everyone wants a relationship, well, okay, not everyone… But the majority especially in the western world do, but not many people know how to make a real relationship work. Why is that?
I believe that we are so “self” focused that we forget a relationship includes another person… That other person is not there for your own means and when it suits you and this goes for both Men & Women and be that if you're in a same-sex partnership or otherwise.
So yes we all want something that’s “real” something that is exciting and something that is going somewhere “real-action-ship”... but you have to be able to relate to one another, work thing through, be ready not just for the good times but it’s the bad times that define the strength of a partnership.
The Video that I shared with you is a Video by a man that seems to just get things! And everyone knows I love people who see things differently. I’m not a relationship advice coach but I have experienced enough to know what works and what does not work.
For example the “No Phone Rule”... Everyone is so glued to their phones that they allow the world to pass them by or live it online, instead of experiencing it for themselves. If you want to create something beautiful with another person, switch your device off and actually physically connect (not just for sex).
Another thing that I feel is super important is that you have your own life outside of the relationship, being glued to one another is not the healthiest kind of partnership, and partnerships require growth and if there is not much variety it slows down.
Create boundaries, it’s not about being a hard ass it’s about knowing your needs and respecting the other person’s needs also.
Communication is obviously the most important and something that I personally have been working on my entire life… Don’t be afraid to speak up and air things out. And be sure to understand your significant other's love language - we all speak it differently.
And lastly the relationship is not about yourself it’s about the both of you - remember this! If you think a relationship is about your significant other waiting on you hand and foot, buying you gifts and dropping everything at whim as soon as you call then maybe you should work more so on the relationship you have with yourself before getting into one with someone else.
Relationships in my opinion should be as fair and as just as they can be, it’s hard work, it requires time, patience and the willing to experience growth (growth is not easy). You have to carve out time, you have to consider another person, you have to be open and willing to understand things in the eyes of another, you have to choose that person everyday, it requires transparency and honesty, it’s giving and taking.
“Most” people look at relationships from a superficial perspective, as in “what can this person give me” - Do they look good, how many people want them, do they have a good job, are they needy (don’t want to have to work so hard), money can even come into the equation as well as who do they know.
Some look at relationships as something to “do” when your bored, someone that’s there to make you “happy”, someone to make you feel good when it suits you. Not many people see it as hard work, if it becomes hard it’s time to end it and move on to the next exciting thing… Everything is instant this day in age and everything is outward…
What can you offer someone? And what is it that you really need when looking at an ideal partner? Everyone is seeking the idea of a connection but not many know how to connect past the physical act of sex.
Personally speaking, you only attract someone truly fitting for you when you are happy in yourself, in the life your living and when your not actually looking for anything. You don’t look for love… It finds you!
Then comes the real work… To not allow the life you have to slip but to increase it further - not in an instant but slowly.
For those who have met their “twin Flames” (a lot of My clients have experienced this) - Remember there purpose is to help you grow at a fast rate! They really are not all they are cracked up to be and energetically speaking we are still in the Jezzabel phase it’s certainly not the time for reconnection. Focus on you for now and watch and see what happens from September 2016 through 2017 - The right kind of love will find you.
Much love x x x
