Fall Relationships - Make up or Break up?

With Fall upon us and relationships entering the Make up or Break-up phase I thought it would be a good time to voice some words...

So What’s the deal with relationships this day in age…

Those that know of me know the nature of my work and I guess I find it super interesting to see the recurring themes that come through when I do my readings.

So, It’s that time of year again the summer is coming to a close and for some strange reason we all feel like we have to be in some form of a “real- action - ship”...

Everyone wants a relationship, well, okay, not everyone… But the majority especially in the western world do, but not many people know how to make a real relationship work. Why is that?

I believe that we are so “self” focused that we forget a relationship includes another person… That other person is not there for your own means and when it suits you and this goes for both Men & Women and be that if you're in a same-sex partnership or otherwise.

So yes we all want something that’s “real” something that is exciting and something that is going somewhere “real-action-ship”... but you have to be able to relate to one another, work thing through, be ready not just for the good times but it’s the bad times that define the strength of a partnership.

The Video that I shared with you is a Video by a man that seems to just get things! And everyone knows I love people who see things differently. I’m not a relationship advice coach but I have experienced enough to know what works and what does not work.

5 Ways to stay connected with your partner

For example the “No Phone Rule”... Everyone is so glued to their phones that they allow the world to pass them by or live it online, instead of experiencing it for themselves. If you want to create something beautiful with another person, switch your device off and actually physically connect (not just for sex).

Another thing that I feel is super important is that you have your own life outside of the relationship, being glued to one another is not the healthiest kind of partnership, and partnerships require growth and if there is not much variety it slows down.

Create boundaries, it’s not about being a hard ass it’s about knowing your needs and respecting the other person’s needs also.

Communication is obviously the most important and something that I personally have been working on my entire life… Don’t be afraid to speak up and air things out. And be sure to understand your significant other's love language - we all speak it differently.

And lastly the relationship is not about yourself it’s about the both of you - remember this! If you think a relationship is about your significant other waiting on you hand and foot, buying you gifts and dropping everything at whim as soon as you call then maybe you should work more so on the relationship you have with yourself before getting into one with someone else.

Relationships in my opinion should be as fair and as just as they can be, it’s hard work, it requires time, patience and the willing to experience growth (growth is not easy). You have to carve out time, you have to consider another person, you have to be open and willing to understand things in the eyes of another, you have to choose that person everyday, it requires transparency and honesty, it’s giving and taking.

“Most” people look at relationships from a superficial perspective, as in “what can this person give me” - Do they look good, how many people want them, do they have a good job, are they needy (don’t want to have to work so hard), money can even come into the equation as well as who do they know.

Some look at relationships as something to “do” when your bored, someone that’s there to make you “happy”, someone to make you feel good when it suits you. Not many people see it as hard work, if it becomes hard it’s time to end it and move on to the next exciting thing… Everything is instant this day in age and everything is outward…

What can you offer someone? And what is it that you really need when looking at an ideal partner? Everyone is seeking the idea of a connection but not many know how to connect past the physical act of sex.

Personally speaking, you only attract someone truly fitting for you when you are happy in yourself, in the life your living and when your not actually looking for anything. You don’t look for love… It finds you!

Then comes the real work… To not allow the life you have to slip but to increase it further - not in an instant but slowly.

For those who have met their “twin Flames” (a lot of My clients have experienced this) - Remember there purpose is to help you grow at a fast rate! They really are not all they are cracked up to be and energetically speaking we are still in the Jezzabel phase it’s certainly not the time for reconnection. Focus on you for now and watch and see what happens from September 2016  through 2017 - The right kind of love will find you.

Much love x x x

Is He Really “The One?” - Haunted by a past Love and reminders - Retrograde Season 2016

Now I know for a lot of us this Spring and Summer of 2016 will be a challenging one, a time where we all will transform in ways we never thought we would. I have a lot of beautiful women come to me asking, “How can I get him back”, “Am I crazy for thinking about my ex”, “How does he really feel”...

Is He Really “The One?”

With all the retrograde energy it does make us somewhat reflective over those past relationships and experiences and something I have learnt is to not chase what no longer is. A few years ago I had to let go of someone I was In love with someone that I thought I'd never be able to love more than that person but that intensity, image for the future/growth was not reciprocated...

A lot of this sudden self reflection is down to the cosmos, it’s not the cosmos fault but it is opening the doors to opportunity for you to heal and let go of things, situations and people that are not what we thought they were or was “suppose” to be.

Now I’m not saying that you won’t reconnect and hit it off again - My aim is not to discourage because maybe for you that was how it was suppose to be, that's how your story was suppose to unfold. But for many we get caught up in the idea of something or someone - I’m simply saying all because your remembering things doesn't mean that has to be nothing more than a tool for reflection and seeing just how far you have come since.

I may only be 27 years old, I know I still have much to learn on my journey in life, but I too was like you looking back and believing that I could never love anyone as much as I loved my ex…  Now although I do not have a significant other just yet, My views have changed massively & If I’m honest I have never loved who I am more than I do now! - It’s been an empowering few years!

A few years back I had to endure the worst pain I have felt to date but I look back and smile now because that was the greatest thing to of happened to me… The result of that ending has impacted me in so many ways, I’m more focused than I have ever been, stronger than I was before, and although I thought I lost everything, that couldn’t be further from the truth. You have to believe that there is something more, I’m a believer everything happens for a reason, That one wasn’t the one doesn’t mean that your one isn’t about to walk into your life - Look at the bigger scheme of things!

Change, death and truth is never easy, it’s uncomfortable and you have to ride it out, the more you resist, the more you hang on the harder it becomes. If your partner is not on the same page as you and has expressed they never will be, it’s time to allow someone the opportunity to be all that and that involves letting this go. Time is all we have stop wasting it on someone who doesn’t want the same things as you - Hoping that it will change, your only standing in the way of your own happiness - as I did back then.

My point is sometimes your greatest downfalls turn into your greatest gains. We all thought it couldn’t get better than this and yet it does. My ex had different views for his future and I wasn’t apart of it, so if someone has chosen something other than you then he/she is not the one for you - Letting that one go does nothing more that open the door for the one to come in - This Summer will be clearing out the old - It’s a process. Get Spring cleaning and get honest with yourself about what you chose to take with you and that in which you leave behind.

You are in charge of your own happiness and you cannot make people change or feel things that they don’t - You can only be the greatest you & That should be more than enough for your lover, husband, partner. A Partnership is about coming together it should be fair and balanced and it’s a journey sometimes you just need to look at where your going… You could find yourself having to go back before you can continue moving forward.

2016 Retrograde Season - The Wheel of Fortune - The greatest things are about to happen - You just gotta make it through!

2016 Retrograde Season

Broken down into sections for you to easily follow along - 1st up I speak of Jupiter & Saturn Retrograde followed by Mars and then Pluto and finishing up with Mercury Retrograde in Taurus

It all starts Now the greatest Purge that will have you feeling like you have well and truly joined the circus! It is the year of the Monkey after all.

Tomorrow will marker Pluto joining Jupiter, Saturn and Mars  in there Retrograding cycles of which will be joined on the 28th by Mercury which is already in its shadow period.

Now Jupiter you already have had a taste of what that is all about being in Virgo... It really is offering you the keys to open doors to amazing new realities but you have to put in the effort to get the Keys, to open up those doors.

With it looking at and I guess you could go as far as to say working alongside Saturn - Both Saturn and Jupiter are about teaching and yeah Saturn can be a hard ass, he likes to push you further and further to see just how far he can before you break, but it’s not about breaking you it’s about making you stronger getting you focused, on track and seeing if you really want it - he has some pretty crazy ways of teaching those lessons. Nevertheless Saturn’s lessons are some of the most rewarding!

Then you have Jupiter, he doesn’t like to be in Virgo, Virgo can be too detail oriented that they become so critical and obsessed with perfection that they forget to look up and notice what you have. Jupiter rules over Sagittarius of which currently has both Mars/Saturn retrograding, which is amplifying the kind of journey you are embarking upon during the Spring/Summer months - It is about expanding your higher mind, adapting beliefs and giving you very real experiences. Maybe even some Spiritual ones! Signs and Signals sent by Planet Neptune.

Jupiter brings about luck, expansion, expanding your horizons in Virgo it can be that doorway for your vocation, what it is you desire to be, to do, and you literally can make it all happen with the Virgo energy but are your Beliefs/fears/doubts the things that are holding you back… The “I can’t do this” syndrome.

Mars Retrograde!

April 18th until May 28 moves direct but won’t leave Scorpio again until August 2nd

So you are well versed in the Jupiter and Saturn Retrogrades but Mars only goes retrograde every couple of years so this energy might feel a little foggy or unusual to most as we don’t experience it quite as often.

Okay so, my mind is scrambling because I want to talk about the importance of it retrograding at the same time as Pluto and that Scorpio link… But first I should kind of let you know at least from my perspective what Mars Transiting Retrograde does and brings with it symbolically.

Mars rules over both Aries and Scorpio! Your persona (1st house - aka the house of self) & The unexpected/unknown/unforeseen (8th house - aka the house of death and rebirth). Mars itself is POWER, not like Capricorn, it’s more like the soldiers or the warriors that work for you it’s the drive and the energy to make it all happen minus the leadership - it’s kind of got a mind of its own - It’s passion and follows it relentlessly. Mars is your life force your energy and it is one of the two relationship planets.

So a Retrograde planet gives off the appearance or the optical illusion of going backwards… So I guess that’s kind of symbolic that we too will go inward and become more reflective maybe needing to look backwards before we are able to move forwards. A piece of the puzzle is missing and the parts are not ahead but behind. It’s as though we have reached a point in our lives where the “gods” the forces beyond this physical reality have put cogs in the wheels that are directing us forward, we can no longer continue on this path because we have things that are holding us back or things that we have forgotten or need to understand - unfinished business.

Okay So Mars last went Retrograde March 1 2014 in the Sign of Libra (affecting relationships) and before that January 24 2012 in the Sign of Virgo all of which where when the Karmic cycle of Saturn in Scorpio was taking place or within a day of doing so.

With Mars going retrograde it can bring if your a female, a certain type of man (back)into your life if you are a man, maybe you are remembering an old lover, again these are just from my observations. Mars co-ruling over Scorpio has this kind of Karmic twist to it - it’s raw and unexplainable.

Mars turning inwards is that we have this desire to look behind, to revisit, there is likely to be a sexual/intimate connection cropping up in some very fated karmic ways. It can bring an old vendetta back, wanting to get even with someone as well… The common thread I’m seeing is the past, going back and not really considering the usual things - it’s like a gravitational pull towards something or someone! This is not a time to make commitments what with Mercury being retrograde at the end of the month.

… Pluto Retrograde

It’s time to reflect about what you actually desire, you will find truths coming to the Surface as we have Pluto lending a helping hand at looking at patterns in your life, understanding the past and opportunities to reconnect and heal - coming together with someone from the past could actually open up more doors for the future - again it’s a time to think and commitments should wait a while longer.

With this cycle of Mars going back through Sagittarius and into Scorpio we will be coming face to face with certain fears even more so something from the past (Pluto retrograding), It’s a time of great transformations and healings and new birthings and reconnections being made - to me it screams Karmic ties.

Pluto going retrograde in Capricorn is a big deal considering it’s degrees and ruling over Saturn which is also doing some reanalyzing upon belief systems and the future, the horizon, what matters and what we are building leads to who we are building things with… We are looking at the structures within our lives and the decisions we made along the way. Pluto ruling over Scorpio the sign of truth, honesty, death, transformation, secrets and control you could find some things out that could redefine a lot for you. This is just another intense aspect turning us to look at the past, the endings that occurred it will trigger the 2012-2014 and summer of 2015 series of events… there are pieces missing and things to heal still and no matter how hard you try to avoid it - 5 planets going retro that’s a lot of energy going down.

Now most people can withhold one maybe two planets going retrograde but with 5 - i’m sorry folks! You will have whatever has been suppressed will resurface for you.

Now I said at the start of the year this will be the year of great changes and those changes will be unpredictable partly because we are moving through the year of the Monkey! I also said that this year the universe in some mysterious ways will be aligning those people who desire partnership with a desirable partner, this partner maybe not what you are use to, but there will be this fatedness about you and the other…It will be about finding your clan or tribe. For those who are fed up with the hookup culture this will be a year that will open up the doorway for a powerful connection and for some, it can bring the past back too. By the time we reach the year of the Rooster (January 28 2017) we will see the light of this beautiful new beginning and it will bring joy!

Mercury Retrograde in Taurus

Currently in its shadow period, going retrograde on April 28 until May 27 but will feel the effects until June 7th.

This one is going to be a kicker being as it is in the Sign of Taurus which is all about value, love, stability, family, the things that bring us that sense of belonging. It’s interesting to me to see how all of this energy is about the heart center, opening up and taking notice of what our hearts wants as opposed to the things we tell ourselves we want.

This is a time where yes there very well could be technical difficulties, delays with travel, misunderstandings, communication mishaps but it is the perfect time to reflect, not take things so personal, there will be a lot of projecting during this time maybe even some hesitantness too. We need to look back at matters of heart - This could bring up an reoccurring situation, a need to re-think about someone from the past or maybe even reflect on a choice you may of made.

Because Taurus is so fixed and sensual I think it can bring up those intense feelings for someone, “The one that got away - or is slipping away”.  It’s as though we go into this deep thought of feelings, reminders, it’s someone who still holds some power over us and Taurus is stubborn so don’t expect things to really get moving until it starts to move forwards again - but still your head will be plagued with a choice, that tipping point of it could really all be over I need to reconnect to see if what I still feel is really there - It’s that sign who needs to experience for oneself to believe… But that desire is there and it’s linked into the past and it circulates the heart, passion and love - a deep one.

It’s as though we thought we made it out! We survived that issue, situation, circumstance due to a lover or something of value to us… Then all of a sudden it pops up out of the blue! It could feel like for some, your own mind is betraying you but all thoughts are cropping up for a reason! You must evaluate these things. Maybe the choices we made back then were us trying to control the issue and switch off from feeling (Pluto won’t allow that neither Mars) - Logic doesn't understand the heart and joy and happiness come from the heart - Taurus is about pleasure the finer things in life & although Mercury Retrogrades are not good to start something New they might be okay to reconsider something old.

Be sure to Share for the upcoming Retrograde Season the energy is about to turn up a notch or two. If you would like a personal Reading with me please check out my website www.askalittlewitch.com & be sure to check me out on Facebook & Youtube “Ask a Little Witch” Like & Subscribe for more

Much love - Little Witch x x x