Fall Relationships - Make up or Break up?

With Fall upon us and relationships entering the Make up or Break-up phase I thought it would be a good time to voice some words...

So What’s the deal with relationships this day in age…

Those that know of me know the nature of my work and I guess I find it super interesting to see the recurring themes that come through when I do my readings.

So, It’s that time of year again the summer is coming to a close and for some strange reason we all feel like we have to be in some form of a “real- action - ship”...

Everyone wants a relationship, well, okay, not everyone… But the majority especially in the western world do, but not many people know how to make a real relationship work. Why is that?

I believe that we are so “self” focused that we forget a relationship includes another person… That other person is not there for your own means and when it suits you and this goes for both Men & Women and be that if you're in a same-sex partnership or otherwise.

So yes we all want something that’s “real” something that is exciting and something that is going somewhere “real-action-ship”... but you have to be able to relate to one another, work thing through, be ready not just for the good times but it’s the bad times that define the strength of a partnership.

The Video that I shared with you is a Video by a man that seems to just get things! And everyone knows I love people who see things differently. I’m not a relationship advice coach but I have experienced enough to know what works and what does not work.

5 Ways to stay connected with your partner

For example the “No Phone Rule”... Everyone is so glued to their phones that they allow the world to pass them by or live it online, instead of experiencing it for themselves. If you want to create something beautiful with another person, switch your device off and actually physically connect (not just for sex).

Another thing that I feel is super important is that you have your own life outside of the relationship, being glued to one another is not the healthiest kind of partnership, and partnerships require growth and if there is not much variety it slows down.

Create boundaries, it’s not about being a hard ass it’s about knowing your needs and respecting the other person’s needs also.

Communication is obviously the most important and something that I personally have been working on my entire life… Don’t be afraid to speak up and air things out. And be sure to understand your significant other's love language - we all speak it differently.

And lastly the relationship is not about yourself it’s about the both of you - remember this! If you think a relationship is about your significant other waiting on you hand and foot, buying you gifts and dropping everything at whim as soon as you call then maybe you should work more so on the relationship you have with yourself before getting into one with someone else.

Relationships in my opinion should be as fair and as just as they can be, it’s hard work, it requires time, patience and the willing to experience growth (growth is not easy). You have to carve out time, you have to consider another person, you have to be open and willing to understand things in the eyes of another, you have to choose that person everyday, it requires transparency and honesty, it’s giving and taking.

“Most” people look at relationships from a superficial perspective, as in “what can this person give me” - Do they look good, how many people want them, do they have a good job, are they needy (don’t want to have to work so hard), money can even come into the equation as well as who do they know.

Some look at relationships as something to “do” when your bored, someone that’s there to make you “happy”, someone to make you feel good when it suits you. Not many people see it as hard work, if it becomes hard it’s time to end it and move on to the next exciting thing… Everything is instant this day in age and everything is outward…

What can you offer someone? And what is it that you really need when looking at an ideal partner? Everyone is seeking the idea of a connection but not many know how to connect past the physical act of sex.

Personally speaking, you only attract someone truly fitting for you when you are happy in yourself, in the life your living and when your not actually looking for anything. You don’t look for love… It finds you!

Then comes the real work… To not allow the life you have to slip but to increase it further - not in an instant but slowly.

For those who have met their “twin Flames” (a lot of My clients have experienced this) - Remember there purpose is to help you grow at a fast rate! They really are not all they are cracked up to be and energetically speaking we are still in the Jezzabel phase it’s certainly not the time for reconnection. Focus on you for now and watch and see what happens from September 2016  through 2017 - The right kind of love will find you.

Much love x x x

Astrology October 08 2014

Astrology October 08 2014

Today is the Lunar Eclipse & Full Moon in Aries!!! The first of this Eclipse season has finally begun!!!! <3

Aries as a theme represents War, Self, independence  and looking at our own identification - Because today is going to be about you, how you see your self and how others are seeing you today.

So now that this is a full moon (Eclipse) it really is emotionally lighting up all of the above. With the planet uranus here in Aries as well it is lighting up the new looks and new ways to look at the identification of who you are, what you represent and what you want in your life.

Now all this energy is opposing (which means it is directly opposite causing stress and tension and the need for balance) the Sun in libra with venus there also which is about relationships, looking at your values and what you mirror and what you connect with. Are you connecting with the right energies?

Now there is also a big T square (by this it means when two planets in opposition ↔ {Moon + Uranus ↔ Sun +Venus} both square a third planet in this case ‘’Pluto’’ making the Letter T in the universe - which is a challenging focal point for these planetary energies) to Pluto in Capricorn signifying is your destiny aligning with the right people and energies? Also are you aligning with your destiny? I cannot stress enough but you really need to focus on truth and having the courage to make the adjustments to follow through in to what will open great doors of opportunity and happiness.

This energy today is about going the next round making it simple which comes with having the right people on your team, you got to know what you want and you got to be connected with that destiny.

There is this grand trine (when three planets generally of the same element meet each other to form a triangle this is  harmonious) in fire - Jupiter in Leo about our heart, opening up our passion, really expanding the heart space and looking at things differently , Uranus in Aries looking at our self, the independence and uniqueness and Mars in Sagittarius ready to go and explore and take us on these big powerful journeys. We want the freedom to go with what we want and universe is really ready to blast open the doors, with new directions and new roads.

So Today is the day to gather everything together so we can be ready to move into all this…

We still have this Mercury Retrograde happening in scorpio which is here to give us the depth to understand all these deep things and really cut away from the things that no longer serve us. Scorpio is life and death - and it really is as final with these situations. The decisions will be made and that is it there is no going back later its final - the only way is forwards.

With this Mercury Retrograde, you will be exploring a lot, really going beneath things and really reveal the truth.

It will also pose questions like is it really in your destiny to be with this person? Do you really think that, that energy is right to connect with?

It’s really a time to fly and i know it is not easy. There is a need for us to REALLY know what it is we want, to REALLY know who we are and to make sure we are connecting with that. If you're not doing this that Pluto in Capricorn is gonna bust it all out into the open. Chances like these, this energy does not come around everyday and the decision is now guys & Dolls. It might be hard because whether following for good or not so good thats true to you, there might be a let go & a redirection shift here.

The power of all this is going with what you know you want & the universe will take you where you need to go and you need to trust in that.  

Neptune is in Pisces so it is about trusting and connecting spiritually as spirit will not lead you wrong. They are pulling you towards something and your thoughts and surrounds - PAY ATTENTION!! There are signs here… What is it you are thinking about? what things randomly pop into your head?

The intensity is that there is going to be changes in partnerships, our values and what we truly want. can make you feel like you're being stretched everywhere today. but trust that you're being put in the right place. Allow this excitement to take us on this journey. It’s like we are all being given tickets - but who is on board!?? Who is resisting and who is open? Being honest is so KEY!!

Destiny is really hitting us today and what it is all about! Everything is here ready to go. . .

My advice is to be very very honest!

Overcoming the Green eyed Monster known as - Jealousy

Overcoming the Green eyed Monster known as - Jealousy

So, Sorry for getting all deep on you... I wanted to theme the week on self love & knowing our Self Worth. Jealousy is something that we face at some point in our life, some of us decide to distinguished our self as a jealous person...Forget all the facade over it's only coz i love you that i get jealous, it's a good thing it shows how much i care... It shows nothing more than our own insecurities.

Now i know that may sound a little harsh, and those that know me personally know i'm the kindest person, but when it comes to the truth i can be a little out spoken or blunt, i don't mean to offend in fact i aim to shine a light upon something a lot of us get stuck in.

It's crucial to remember that your partner is not with you simply because your attractive, that is just one factor, & that's what i'd like you to remember before you take something small & making it something huge.

We are in ''relationships'' because that person has so much more to them that meets our desirable partner. So when your partner is engaging in small talk with a some what attractive female, do not assume his going to run off with her... She may be beautiful but she is not you. You are important person in your partners life, and she is not you, so do not fret, jump to conclusions or judge.

You see we meet different categories in peoples life, funny, intelligent, kind, caring, good in bed, generous, out going, fun to be with, values, ambition, goals...  So we are always going to find people who are better at us at some things, but you are the magic ingredient at making your partner yours and he yours.

I hope i am making sense... You see when we are jealous we are sending vibes and energy out that states we are not enough, that person is prettier than me, slimmer than me or funnier than me...

Your partner is with you because he choose to be, because you have all the qualities that he desires, because you are the one that he cannot replace. His not with you just for how you look it’s for everything else you bring to the relationship. But when you act jealous all the time it takes away a little of your sparkle…

Now it depends on the man, some men are naturally flirtatious, some men are not loyal but that's for you to figure out and then it’s for you to decide if this is someone you want to invest in. Trust is key if you have that why are you Jealous??

Jealousy is an internal feeling that implies fear and the lack of something within our self… Your amazing and you are special, your unique to your partner… never let anyone change that. Love who you are, enjoy what you got and be the best you!!

You see there are various categories in a person we find desirable it is not all physical. So yes there will be people that are better then you in certain categories… but you should remember you're so much more to him than just looks, you are many things so you see there is no reason be jealous at all, you are what he wants - not the girl who he is casually talking to for that five minutes.

Jealousy is real - battle it now! Stop comparing your self to everyone else... Believe me it's great to be different & no i'm not everyone's cup of tea... But when you wake up and realize your a lot happier.

Breakups #02

Breakups #02

Okay, Tomorrow is a brand new day - Those i know going through a heartbreak or a difficult time... Don't be mad at yourself for feeling upset…. You have made it through another day!! & Guess what - Tomorrow is a new day!

Today i want you to go through your house… & Clear away the reminders you don't need to see Like old photos, things laying around the house, cards, gifts, shirts, whatever it is that reminds you of the other person… This is because our brains when we see these things send triggers that remind us of that said thing and the memories linked to it.

I’m not saying you need to erase them from your life - I’m simply saying ##out of sight - out of mind’’ This will help you move along instead of wallowing over what ‘’could've been’’.

I want you to get your self motivated… Set your self some new goals, revamp your vision board!! Indulge in all that makes you smile... Exercise and eat healthy, really connect with who you are as a person!

Clear out your home so you can clear out your mind & day by day things will get easier - it's okay to miss someone it's just your hearts way of saying you still love them... all apart of the process! at least that's what they say Tomorrow will be better than today!

Be STRONG and know you deserve everything they was not able to give you!