Fall Relationships - Make up or Break up?

With Fall upon us and relationships entering the Make up or Break-up phase I thought it would be a good time to voice some words...

So What’s the deal with relationships this day in age…

Those that know of me know the nature of my work and I guess I find it super interesting to see the recurring themes that come through when I do my readings.

So, It’s that time of year again the summer is coming to a close and for some strange reason we all feel like we have to be in some form of a “real- action - ship”...

Everyone wants a relationship, well, okay, not everyone… But the majority especially in the western world do, but not many people know how to make a real relationship work. Why is that?

I believe that we are so “self” focused that we forget a relationship includes another person… That other person is not there for your own means and when it suits you and this goes for both Men & Women and be that if you're in a same-sex partnership or otherwise.

So yes we all want something that’s “real” something that is exciting and something that is going somewhere “real-action-ship”... but you have to be able to relate to one another, work thing through, be ready not just for the good times but it’s the bad times that define the strength of a partnership.

The Video that I shared with you is a Video by a man that seems to just get things! And everyone knows I love people who see things differently. I’m not a relationship advice coach but I have experienced enough to know what works and what does not work.

5 Ways to stay connected with your partner

For example the “No Phone Rule”... Everyone is so glued to their phones that they allow the world to pass them by or live it online, instead of experiencing it for themselves. If you want to create something beautiful with another person, switch your device off and actually physically connect (not just for sex).

Another thing that I feel is super important is that you have your own life outside of the relationship, being glued to one another is not the healthiest kind of partnership, and partnerships require growth and if there is not much variety it slows down.

Create boundaries, it’s not about being a hard ass it’s about knowing your needs and respecting the other person’s needs also.

Communication is obviously the most important and something that I personally have been working on my entire life… Don’t be afraid to speak up and air things out. And be sure to understand your significant other's love language - we all speak it differently.

And lastly the relationship is not about yourself it’s about the both of you - remember this! If you think a relationship is about your significant other waiting on you hand and foot, buying you gifts and dropping everything at whim as soon as you call then maybe you should work more so on the relationship you have with yourself before getting into one with someone else.

Relationships in my opinion should be as fair and as just as they can be, it’s hard work, it requires time, patience and the willing to experience growth (growth is not easy). You have to carve out time, you have to consider another person, you have to be open and willing to understand things in the eyes of another, you have to choose that person everyday, it requires transparency and honesty, it’s giving and taking.

“Most” people look at relationships from a superficial perspective, as in “what can this person give me” - Do they look good, how many people want them, do they have a good job, are they needy (don’t want to have to work so hard), money can even come into the equation as well as who do they know.

Some look at relationships as something to “do” when your bored, someone that’s there to make you “happy”, someone to make you feel good when it suits you. Not many people see it as hard work, if it becomes hard it’s time to end it and move on to the next exciting thing… Everything is instant this day in age and everything is outward…

What can you offer someone? And what is it that you really need when looking at an ideal partner? Everyone is seeking the idea of a connection but not many know how to connect past the physical act of sex.

Personally speaking, you only attract someone truly fitting for you when you are happy in yourself, in the life your living and when your not actually looking for anything. You don’t look for love… It finds you!

Then comes the real work… To not allow the life you have to slip but to increase it further - not in an instant but slowly.

For those who have met their “twin Flames” (a lot of My clients have experienced this) - Remember there purpose is to help you grow at a fast rate! They really are not all they are cracked up to be and energetically speaking we are still in the Jezzabel phase it’s certainly not the time for reconnection. Focus on you for now and watch and see what happens from September 2016  through 2017 - The right kind of love will find you.

Much love x x x

Is He Really “The One?” - Haunted by a past Love and reminders - Retrograde Season 2016

Now I know for a lot of us this Spring and Summer of 2016 will be a challenging one, a time where we all will transform in ways we never thought we would. I have a lot of beautiful women come to me asking, “How can I get him back”, “Am I crazy for thinking about my ex”, “How does he really feel”...

Is He Really “The One?”

With all the retrograde energy it does make us somewhat reflective over those past relationships and experiences and something I have learnt is to not chase what no longer is. A few years ago I had to let go of someone I was In love with someone that I thought I'd never be able to love more than that person but that intensity, image for the future/growth was not reciprocated...

A lot of this sudden self reflection is down to the cosmos, it’s not the cosmos fault but it is opening the doors to opportunity for you to heal and let go of things, situations and people that are not what we thought they were or was “suppose” to be.

Now I’m not saying that you won’t reconnect and hit it off again - My aim is not to discourage because maybe for you that was how it was suppose to be, that's how your story was suppose to unfold. But for many we get caught up in the idea of something or someone - I’m simply saying all because your remembering things doesn't mean that has to be nothing more than a tool for reflection and seeing just how far you have come since.

I may only be 27 years old, I know I still have much to learn on my journey in life, but I too was like you looking back and believing that I could never love anyone as much as I loved my ex…  Now although I do not have a significant other just yet, My views have changed massively & If I’m honest I have never loved who I am more than I do now! - It’s been an empowering few years!

A few years back I had to endure the worst pain I have felt to date but I look back and smile now because that was the greatest thing to of happened to me… The result of that ending has impacted me in so many ways, I’m more focused than I have ever been, stronger than I was before, and although I thought I lost everything, that couldn’t be further from the truth. You have to believe that there is something more, I’m a believer everything happens for a reason, That one wasn’t the one doesn’t mean that your one isn’t about to walk into your life - Look at the bigger scheme of things!

Change, death and truth is never easy, it’s uncomfortable and you have to ride it out, the more you resist, the more you hang on the harder it becomes. If your partner is not on the same page as you and has expressed they never will be, it’s time to allow someone the opportunity to be all that and that involves letting this go. Time is all we have stop wasting it on someone who doesn’t want the same things as you - Hoping that it will change, your only standing in the way of your own happiness - as I did back then.

My point is sometimes your greatest downfalls turn into your greatest gains. We all thought it couldn’t get better than this and yet it does. My ex had different views for his future and I wasn’t apart of it, so if someone has chosen something other than you then he/she is not the one for you - Letting that one go does nothing more that open the door for the one to come in - This Summer will be clearing out the old - It’s a process. Get Spring cleaning and get honest with yourself about what you chose to take with you and that in which you leave behind.

You are in charge of your own happiness and you cannot make people change or feel things that they don’t - You can only be the greatest you & That should be more than enough for your lover, husband, partner. A Partnership is about coming together it should be fair and balanced and it’s a journey sometimes you just need to look at where your going… You could find yourself having to go back before you can continue moving forward.

Twin Flames - A Dream Come true - Is it really all it's cracked up to be?

Twin Flames

There is a lot of talk about “Twin Flames”  especially in the Spiritual community. . . Everyone seems to have one? I don’t want to say anyone is wrong but there are a lot of love connections and none is above or below the other in status but they are very different. You can be in love but you do not have to label that as knowing your “Twin Flame”... Let me tell you a Karmic relationship such as Twin flames are not all rosy it’s extreme and it makes you crazy at least from my experience…

Astrologically I can tell if two people are suppose to connect some aspects are stronger than others... But you have free will and can decide at any given time to change courses/paths.

Soul Mates - Well this is a more harmonious blend! You are likely to compliment each other well. Twin Flames from my perspective are two of the same and yet different - The Masculine and the Feminine.

Twin Flames - So there is a lot of talk about what they are and how to tell if you found your “Twin Flame”... All I can do is tell you from my experience

How a Dream turned into Reality! 

-Dreams come true, or Do they?

For Months, I had been having strange dreams of a man, in various countries, Scenarios, situations and themes but all the time this man would appear in my dream… 

At first, I just labeled it as weird and then before bed I’d ask things like what does he do, his hobbies his likes? Again I had a dream of being at a Zoo and a photographer man “The Man” would follow me around taking pictures… 

So I guess he not only loved wildlife, animals but also Photography. This was true of My if you can call it “Twin Flame”, He was obsessed with the outdoors, wildlife, photography… I even had a dream of him climbing a mountain and his hand popped out of his socket and he fell off the mountain, shortly after being with him he in fact, climbed Kilimanjaro, However he thankfully did not fall or severely damage himself, but he did break both feet prior to going to Africa and his limbs always pop out? Strange aye. 

After a while, the dreams were all very samey and never was I ever to see his eyes, only that he had piercings (distinctive) and the style of clothing… 

I asked why I was dreaming of this man and when will I meet him. So a week before we initially met, I was working my usual shift at a Bar that I was working at the time, he would come in with a DSLR Camera (Just as in my other dreams) and ask for the manager and we sorta stared at each other and I’ll wake up… I had the same dream for a week.

Sure enough… Just as in my dream, He walked in and everything down to his mannerisms was exact! I kinda pointed towards the manager, it was the strangest feeling… I knew him, yet I didn't really and I had to go round the back to pinch myself, I was certain i was going crazy.

So Mystery Dream Man Shows up in Real life!

So initially other than the crazy connection I felt he didn’t strike me as “My type” as in he was quite the “Ladies man” if you catch my drift and that to me is not a desirable… But sure enough, I agreed to meet him outside of work hours and we talked for hours and hours and it was very magical - It was so strange, magical it was a lot like a fairytale.

But then as with all Twin Flames… A lot of things arise from within, the connection is intense, it’s powerful, it’s confusing and it really doesn’t make sense. A lot of past issues surface. And so in comes the pain! But there is so much love there that it really doesn’t make sense. It’s hard for me to explain… It feels a lot like your going to burst and I am a very analytical thinker but his Man made me so emotional, not that he was being mean or anything just the energy was so very intense it consumed me.

A lot of psychics, as I cannot read for myself and I thoroughly enjoy a reading had told me I have met my Twin Flame and blah blah… I shuffled my own cards and automatically I saw how it was going to end. There would be a “friend” of his and naturally he will gravitate towards her through mutual interests “Travel” and then we would soon after come to an end.

We sure enough, did come to an end! Exactly as I had foreseen. There was not a logical or real reason as to why it ended… But he for sure was scared by what the relationship meant for him, and naturally as most Twins do they RUN… I could tell he was honestly confused and torn but at the same time he had a vision for his life and I was not apart of that… But as All Aquarius or Twin Flames they will never close the door completely.

I reached out several times as a friend but I can tell it’s distant and So I myself have closed that chapter in my life. They often say you can go back and forth in this kind of relationship. If someone wants to be in your life they will be.

So that was my sad Twin Flame story… Do I believe he was my Twin Flame? I mean sure all the signs were there and I did learn a lot from my time with him… But could I go back to that - I’m not sure that I could, I think the moving on so quickly makes me think It wasn’t real, and yet we all heal in different ways.. But the pain i felt I do not think I could survive a round two… That’s no exaggeration.

They say when your Twin Runs it’s the most painful feeling to be felt. It literally felt like a death, a real literal death… I’ve been upset over boys before, but this was 3000 times worse, My body was literally hurting, something inside me died! I would not wish it on anyone ever… It did make me suicidal for a little while and I swear it thundered and rained for weeks! Alas the pain turned into a numbness I tried my best to detached spiritually to stop the connection. . . I forgot to mention we was psychically connected I could feel him and him me, It was strange - not sure that happens with everyone (Twin flame couples) but with what I do and me being who I am, It could just be my own ability.

And a year and a half later… I have dated a few guys all really amazing and sweet guys, but I’m just back to being me! Happy go lucky! Content in myself and sure open to something new if it comes along.

Spirit has led me in talking about this I feel, I’m seeing “Twin Flame” sage everywhere… and although they tell me that there is someone new on the horizon and I guess I’m looking forward to that a Soul Mate connection… They are also warning me that my Twin may try to come back into my life? I honestly don’t see this happening but I guess I shouldn’t doubt what they say. I think I’ve suffered enough and if we connect it will ever only be as friends - in case anyone I know reads this and is thinking I've lost my mind - I’m excited for new things and new adventures… The past is the past & I intend on leaving it there =)

So to sum up Twin Flames/Karmic Relationships=Magic but so much CHAOS! It’s intense, passionate and out of this world but it’s like a rollercoaster… Soul Mates = Bliss! Easier and a lot more compassion involved.

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